Just today, (actually just this hour) I thought how inconsiderate of me it is not to write about God’s unconditional love! How He makes my life bearable despite of not-so-good life situations.

If I will list down everything that God has done for me, this blog could be the longest! But I could mention a few.

I know, in my heart that He watched me as I grow up and age. Looking back at my childhood, I could definitely say that he never left me. And until now, I am certain that everything has been planned for me. All I need to do is to wait and have faith.

He tells me to have patience when I had too many unanswered questions. In His planned time, I get all the answers to my questions. By talking to Him and keeping your faith, you can be sure that He’ll never leave you wondering.

He uses other people to help me when I’m in need the most. God knows what you really need more than you do, even if you haven’t asked for it yet (Matthew 6:8). All you need to do is ask… just ask and trust in Him.

Sometimes, His answers are very visible and sometimes instant – He uses dreams or other materials that you use daily. I’ve seen clear answers around five times. One time was when I was in high school. Perhaps He has showed me more, I just failed to see the others.

And so on…

Jesus’ love is so wonderful.

Search for Him…He is waiting for you ♥

Learning a new art

This is my first blog as Mrs. Mendiola, officially ;-) It's been almost 3 weeks now.

And how's married life? Great! And when i said great, i meant a lot of things - good and not so (lol). But of course everything should be good! For one, because you've made one of the biggest decision in your life. Two, you've decided to live with the man/woman of your dreams. The one that you'll be living with, dealing with F.O.R.E.V.E.R..

So how's everything so far?

On our first week, everything's cool. Honestly, there's no huge difference, since we're kinda used to being together almost everyday even before we got married. No, we're not living-in together before marriage, i'm talking about the usual sleep-overs that most couples do. I think another reason could be, not being able to move-in yet into a new house - we're still staying with my family. And during weekends we plan to stay at their house. Nothing different from what we used to do for at least a year now.

Second week was as exciting as the first. Intimacy has been valid (what a term!) - i meant, it became more enjoyable than ever - i think because of the fact that marriage gives you the "license" to do the deed without the guilt. I've also started noticing a few things i have never seen him do before. Or maybe i have, but i'm just not really paying much attention.

Two things that i've learned in two weeks: MORE patience and team work.

Why MORE patience? Because through our six years together, i've learned and practiced patience already. And i think i'm starting to feel that i need to learn and have more of it =P
And team work, actually a more solid team work. Need i explain more?

We are on our third week now. Everything's as good as before, only that there's something that really bothers me.. i am missing 'me'. I miss being alone. The feeling of not having to think about anybody else but me. I miss sleeping alone, eating alone, watching tv alone. I tried to tell my mom about it and she said it is very normal for me to feel that way. Because we're still starting and we have to adjust to our new situation. And she mentioned patience - just as how important it is as i've realized.

I do not feel like i've done a wrong decision when i married him - of course not! I do not have any regrets. And i'm definitely not complaining. I think i am just really at the point of adjusting.

I look forward to learning and discovering new things with my husband. Ultimately, i'd like to be the best wife in the world.


...And i promise to write more about married life :-)

Bob Ong Kowts on Love Month

I didn't know who Bob Ong is until i decided i should read one of his books. I'm glad i did. He writes on a certain topic with a very broad rationalization and a lot of examples. He has his own words of wisdom and mission statements, which most of the time sounds funny at first, but wait until reality bites.

Here are some of his advices, mostly about love, for the sake of the love month...


"Kung hindi mo mahal ang isang tao, wag ka nang magpakita ng motibo para mahalin ka nya."

"Lahat naman ng tao sumeseryoso pag tinamaan ng pagmamahal. Yun nga lang, hindi lahat matibay para sa temptasyon."

"Gamitin ang puso para alagaan ang taong malapit sa yo. Gamitin ang utak para alagaan ang sarili mo."

"Huwag mong bitawan ang bagay na hindi mo kayang makitang hawak ng iba."

"Huwag mong hawakan kung alam mong bibitawan mo lang"

"Huwag na huwag ka hahawak kapag alam mong may hawak ka na."

"Parang elevator lang yan eh, bakit mo pagsisiksikan ung sarili mo kung walang pwesto para sayo. Eh, meron naman hagdan, ayaw mo lang pansinin."

"Kung maghihintay ka nang lalandi sayo, walang mangyayari sa buhay mo...Dapat lumandi ka din."
"Pag may mahal ka at ayaw sayo, hayaan mo. Malay mo sa mga susunod na araw ayaw mo na din sa kanya, naunahan ka lang."

"Hiwalayan na kung di ka na masaya. Walang gamot sa tanga kundi pagkukusa."

"Pag hindi ka mahal ng mahal mo wag ka magreklamo. Kasi may mga tao rin na di mo mahal pero mahal ka...kaya quits lang."

"ayokong nasasanay sa mga bagay na pwede namang wala sa buhay ko."

"hindi dahil sa hindi mo naiintindihan ang isang bagay ay kasinungalingan na ito. at hindi lahat ng kaya mong intindihin ay katotohanan. "

"Mahirap pumapel sa buhay ng tao. Lalo na kung hindi ikaw yung bida sa script na pinili nya."

"Minsan kahit ikaw ang nakaschedule, kailangan mo pa rin maghintay, kasi hindi ikaw ang priority."

"Alam mo ba kung gaano kalayo ang pagitan ng dalawang tao pag nagtalikuran na sila? Kailangan mong libutin ang buong mundo para lang makaharap ulit ang taong tinalikuran mo."

"Kung nagmahal ka ng taong di dapat at nasaktan ka, wag mong sisihin ang puso mo. Tumitibok lng yan para mag-supply ng dugo sa katawan mo. Ngayon, kung magaling ka sa anatomy at ang sisisihin mo naman ay ang hypothalamus mo na kumokontrol ng emotions mo, mali ka pa rin! Bakit? Utang na loob! Wag mong isisi sa body organs mo ang mga sama ng loob mo sa buhay! Tandaan mo: magiging masaya ka lang kung matututo kang tanggapin na hindi ang puso, utak, atay o bituka mo ang may kasalanan sa lahat ng nangyari sayo, kundi IKAW mismo!"

"Pakawalan mo yung mga bagay na nakakasakit sa iyo kahit na pinasasaya ka nito. Wag mong hintayin ang araw na sakit na lang ang nararamdaman mo at iniwan ka na ng kasiyahan mo."

"Ang pag-ibig parang imburnal...nakakatakot mahulog...at kapag nahulog ka, it's either by accident or talagang tanga ka."

"Kung dalawa ang mahal mo, piliin mo yung pangalawa. Kasi hindi ka naman magmamahal ng iba kung mahal mo talaga yung una."

"Hindi porke't madalas mong ka-chat, kausap sa telepono, kasama sa mga lakad o ka-text ng wantusawa eh may gusto sayo at magkakatuluyan kayo. Meron lang talagang mga taong sadyang friendly, sweet, flirt, malandi, pa-fall o paasa."

“Ang tenga kapag pinagdikit korteng puso… Extension ng puso ang tenga, kaya kapag marunog kang makinig, marunong kang magmahal.”

“Kapag pinag-aagawan ka malamang maganda o gwapo ka. Sumama ka sa mabuti, hindi sa mabait. Sa marunong hindi sa matalino. Sa mahal ka, hindi sa gusto ka.”

"Walang taong manhid. Hindi niya lang talaga maintindihan kung ano ang gusto mong iparating dahil ayaw mo siyang diretsuhin."

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